Step into Your Power
Your Boudoir Preparation Guide
“As long as you show up, it’s going to be AMAZING! That’s it. That’s all you have to do. I’ve got the rest. Can’t wait to see you!”
– Siorna Ashby
This guide will help you prepare for your boudoir experience! It's a 12-minute read.
These are my top tips and frequently asked questions from clients.
Grab a cup of tea and get started.
What should I wear?
Where to start
Start with something that makes you feel confident — that might be structured boxers, a crisp white shirt, a favourite leather jacket, or nothing at all. Some clients choose tailored pieces, some go minimal. What matters is how you feel wearing it.
The Style Consult will help
In our video Style Consult we'll talk wardrobe and props. We'll plan a few looks that reflect your personality — whether that’s bold, refined, artistic, or casual.
Looking for Ideas?
Below are recommendations from past clients for a range of styles and prices.
Deadgoodundies
Style: From classic briefs to more adventurous designs, catering to diverse preferences.
Candyman Underwear (sold via Johnnies Closet)
Style: Bold and expressive pieces, including sheer fabrics and vibrant colours. Ideal for clients wanting to showcase their playful or daring side with standout pieces.
Amazon & Etsy also stock Candyman.
Flur De Mal
Style: Luxury meets sensuality with silk boxer briefs, lace thongs, and elegant robes. Designs challenge traditional norms, perfect for clients seeking a refined, fashion-forward look.
BumChums
Style: Known for fun and colorful pieces that add a playful touch to any boudoir session.
XDress
Style: Lingerie-inspired underwear for men, including thongs, bodysuits, and satin briefs.
Implied Nude Photography
For clients exploring nude imagery, it’s important to know that all my nude photography sessions are implied nude. This means you may be undressed, but we will always use careful posing, props, lighting, or your own body position to ensure nothing explicit is visible. The focus is on form, shape, and expression — never exposure.
You’ll be directed gently and respectfully throughout, and you’ll always have the final say over what we create and what you feel comfortable with.
Before your Boudoir Photoshoot
Basic Must Haves
Hydrate.
Drink water in the days leading up to your shoot. It helps with energy, skin, and your overall glow.
Moisturise.
Keep skin hydrated twice a day in the three days prior. Pay extra attention to elbows, hands, knees, and feet.
Keep Your Lips Soft and Luscious.
Keep them soft and moisturised. A toothbrush exfoliation + balm works wonders. Many clients rave about Bulldog Original lip balm and Nivea Men Active Care lip balm.
Pamper those nails.
Clean, neat nails look great in detail shots. If you use polish, avoid chips. Press-ons or clean natural is perfect.
A Few Quick Answers
What's best for grooming?
Avoid a drastic hair change right before your shoot. Stick with what feels like you. If you shave or trim facial hair, do it the day before to avoid irritation.
Will my spots show in the photos?
Yes, spots happen—and they suck. But don’t worry! I retouch blemishes and bruises in every photo, so it’s no problem at all. Let that spot try its hardest, but your photos will be flawless, without a trace of it to ruin your day.
Night before nerves?
Avoid heavy drinking. A bubble bath, good sleep, and relaxing music are your best prep. Sparkling wine will be available if you want a calming sip during your session.
Low energy on the day?
Whether it’s bloating, flare-ups, or just a mood dip, don’t stress. We’ll adapt to how you’re feeling.
The 3 things I hear the most
Let me support you here.
I don't know how to pose.
You don't have to. I’ll guide you through everything.
I'm not photogenic.
I hear this all the time—and I’ve even thought it about myself. What we really mean is that we’ve had bad experiences with people taking our photos. You don’t have to love every single shot, but I promise you’ll love most of them. Come in with an open mind, and we’ll get even more. Most of my clients have felt this way. You’ll be amazed by how differently you see yourself afterwards.
I don't like [insert body part].
I’ve battled body issues for years and still do on most days, so I completely understand how hard self-love can be. I get it. Everyone has insecurities. My job is to pose and light you in a way that celebrates you, just as you are.
Music
Make a Playlist
Music taps into your emotions, which is why I always recommend to bring your own playlist — anything that helps you feel grounded, powerful, or calm. Whether that’s soul, classic rock, lo-fi, or indie, we’ll play what helps you relax.
You can also explore my curated playlists:
On the day of your Boudoir Photoshoot
Your day is here!
Plan to arrive early so you’re not rushed. Wear loose clothing to avoid marks on your skin. Remove watches, tight socks, and hair ties from wrists.
Then? Breathe. This space is yours.
After your Boudoir Photoshoot
What happens next?
I will help you pack your things and we’ll get you scheduled for your photo reveal appointment so you know exactly when you’ll be seeing your images.
Within two weeks of your shoot, we’ll have your photo reveal appointment over Zoom, where you’ll see all your proofs and choose your favourites. Before the appointment, I’ll send you a PDF of tiny, low-resolution thumbnails so you can start thinking about your favourites. You’ll choose your full collection during the Zoom call together!
Frequently Asked Questions
What kind of editing and retouching happens?
My editing philosophy is to help you look like you on your best possible day! Photo editing is a conversation, and you can let me know your preferences. These are your photographs and you’re in charge.
These are the things that I will usually edit:
- Light levels
- Correct skin tone colour
- Remove stray hairs
- Neaten and smooth clothing
- Change to black and white
Unless you ask me otherwise, I will also remove the following:
- Bruises
- Spots
I leave moles and scars unless you tell me otherwise.
The top 5 things I most frequently get asked to tweak are:
- Add volume to my hair
- Slim my arms
- Slim my waist
- Remove or lessen stretch marks
- Smooth my skin
- Reduce or remove my wrinkle lines
Do you share my photographs online and on social media?
Never without your consent. Every image on my site was shared with clear permission.
Can I print my photographs from the digital photographs I purchase?
Yes! You receive personal print rights. I also offer luxury printing if you want the best possible quality.
How long do you keep the photographs I don't buy?
mages you don't purchase are deleted after 3 months. You'll get reminders first. I keep photographs you do buy indefinitely in case you need additional copies.
Final thoughts
Be kind to yourself.
This is the big one! This experience is about showing up for yourself, exactly as you are. Be kind to yourself, be curious, and trust the process. You might be surprised by how empowering it feels to be seen.
See you soon!
If you have any questions send me an email. I'm here for you.